Are you dating the wrong guy? There are plenty of signs that will guide you in knowing if this is the right or wrong guy for you.
Is your date the controlling type?
Maybe the guy you’re going out with is quite strong and controlling. This can be quite attractive in the beginning, as it seems his mind is always on you and you appreciate it. After you have been together for a while this wears off a bit as controlling, domineering ways are hard to live with. Everyone has their different ways of controlling both passive and aggressive but it is important to understand the signs of his and your ways of controlling before getting fully involved with him.
Is your date on the Rebound?
Whether you have just exited a long relationship or the guy you are going out with just finished one, someone is going to end up being the “rebound date.” Rebound relationships are frequently treated like tissues. They absorb those tears and boost the ego, but tend to be thrown out when rationale comes back. It can be unfortunate because rebounds rarely have the ability to provide enough for the other person’s satisfaction. This is because the issues from the previous relationship haven’t been worked on.
Is your date just playing games?
He tells you he cares for you, but can’t look you in the eye when he states it. He simply doesn’t appear to be authentic. The reality is that maybe he doesn’t appreciate you. He’s simply keeping you around by telling you what he thinks you want to hear. This results in trust issues. Any relationship without trust is like that mobile phone without service. All that you can do is play games.
Is your date critical of you?
He tells you all of your “personal faults” but doesn’t believe he has any of his own. If he is not accepting of you the way you are then this can be the biggest red flag of all. Why would you ever be happy being with a person who brings down your self-worth?
He doesn’t want to spend time with your friends or wants to limit the time that you see your friends. It is always a good idea to keep in contact with your friends, as your friendships are always special. Sometimes when there is a new guy on the scene a girl can become consumed with him and forget about her friends. A nice balance is good!
Overall this should be an exciting happy time for you to get to know each other and enjoy each others company. If it doesn’t feel like it is all flowing then you need to communicate and set up good habits from the beginning. You may start to think he is not the guy for you when you feel uncomfortable around him and you don’t enjoy similar things or he doesn’t want to do some of the things you like to do. Put simply if you are constantly questioning whether to keep dating this guy you need to ask yourself why?