10 Signs You’re Losing Her – And How To Fix It!
When your girlfriend starts acting and treating you differently, it may mean that she’s no longer interested in you and the relationship could be falling apart. You could be thinking that everything is going ok but the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.
If you don’t pick up on these red flags, and try to fix the issues that may be causing them, then you may be headed for a break up.
Signs your girlfriend is losing interest
Here are a few of the biggest signs your girl is losing interest in you so you can figure out whether you want to work on your issues together or call it quits.
1. She doesn’t return phone calls or texts for awhile
You might notice that suddenly all the emojis are gone from your girlfriends messages and if she does happen to respond to your text, it’s often with one-word answers. You find yourself initiating practically every conversation, and seem to constantly be the last one to sign off at the end of a chat.
If you have been in a relationship for sometime, it might just be that the newness of the relationship has started to wear off. She may be feeling a lot more secure in your partnership and doesn’t think it is necessary to “check in” as much.
Also, she could be busy at work and not get regular breaks, or in a job that where it is hard to sneak away to look at their phone. Another consideration is to look at how you are communicating. Do you only write short messages to her? Are you sending her texts that don’t seem to need a response? If you feel that she is losing interest over text, ask her open-ended questions that will require more than a one-word answer. Even more importantly, tailor the question to either things that are of interest to her or things that you have in common.
However, if she’s just not talking to you as often or answering your calls/texts in a timely manner, she may be intentionally trying to create distance between the two of you.
2. She avoids public affection
If the girl you like was all for PDA in the beginning of your relationship but avoids it now, it may be a sign that she doesn’t want others to think you two are together.
On top of simple affection in public, her actions and behaviour may also provide signs that you are losing the intimacy of a relationship. If you find that she is standing or sitting far away from you, or positioning her body to avoid contact (like her feet are pointed away from you), this may be cause for alarm.
There may be other social signals to be aware of, including not paying attention, being distant, choosing not to engage in conversation. Also, they may instead stare at other things, like looking out a window, instead of meeting your gaze, and when they do have to, it is often with little emotion.
To make sure that she is definitely losing interest, make sure that there is nothing else going on first. Check whether she is angry or upset at something that has happened, or whether she is dealing with any other personal issues that you are unaware of.
If you have made every effort to understand what is going on, and she still avoids public affection, that is more than likely a sure sign that she’s losing interest in you.
3. She avoids physical contact
When a woman is interested in their partner, they want to show their affection through touch. If she is no longer initiating casual touch like holding hands while walking together, or cringes away when you try to put your arm around her, it may be a red flag that something is amiss.
Part of a healthy relationship is one that also includes a level of physical contact, including a positive and respectful sex life if it has reached that stage. If there is no reciprocal pleasing, she is probably less interested in you than she was at the start.
If both people do not share a level of attraction for each other, then it may be better to remain as single friends.
4. She puts her girlfriends ahead of you
Not inviting you out with her friends may indicate that she’s creating space between the two of you and opening herself up to other options, especially if most of her girlfriends are single.
If the girl you’re seeing suddenly decides to stop including you in any of her co-ed group outings or continually cancels, puts off plans to do things with you, or bails on dates, there’s a good chance that she’s losing interest.
Just remember, things like a girls’ night out or bachelorette parties obviously don’t count, but if she is always doing things with friends as well as limiting her one on one time with you, then you can definitely see it as a warning sign as she may be avoiding spending quality time with you.
5. She stops arguing with you
If there are communication issues where she doesn’t feel comfortable discussing the issues she is experiencing, then choosing to no longer engage in heated discussions may be her way of dealing with control issues. It is best to first look at the way you communicate
All couples disagree at some point and if she’s stopped arguing with you, she may also be done with you. When someone cares, they will passionately discuss the things that are important. If she is no longer doing this, then she more than likely no longer feels deeply about you and working on creating strong relationship.
6. She starts saying “I” instead of “we”
When someone has enjoyed the single life for a long period of time, it is often a habit to talk about your life as if it was just yourself. However once two people have been together for a long period of time, it becomes habit to regularly include your partner when talking about life plans.
If she starts saying “I” more often than “we” then that may mean she no longer sees you in her life. Although it is normal for it to happen time to time, if she rarely uses inclusive language like “we, us, me and my boyfriend” then that’s a bad sign.
7. She makes plans without you
It is important for each person to maintain some independence from each other. A healthier relationship is one where both people display confidence to pursue both their own individual interests, but then both choose to come together for shared experiences such as fun dates.
If someone wants to spend time alone without being disturbed by others, then that’s perfectly fine. Some people like to spend a lot of time on their own, while others thrive off being around those they love.
If you find that she is always doing activities where there is no good reason not to invite you, or she is leaving you out of all her plans and would rather do everything on her own, then you could definitely take this is a huge sign that her feelings for you are diminishing.
8. She no longer refers to your future together
While it’s always fine to focus on the present, especially if your relationship is newer, it may start to raise a few red flags if your partner never wants to talk about the future. In a committed relationship, things like planning vacations or discussing whether or not they’re interested in having children is a common sign that things are serious.
If all of the talk about your future together has stopped, it may be a sign she no longer sees you in it. If they’re not seeing you as a starring role in your combined future, then it might be time to dissolve and peacefully separate.
9. No more gifts
A lot of women love showering their men with small gifts to show their appreciation. They may be out shopping and see the perfect shirt that you would look hot in so they buy it just for you. However, if she is always buying gifts for you but you don’t do the same for her at times, then she may feel like you do not appreciate her in the same way.
If your girlfriend is like this, and then the gifts stop coming, it may be a sign she is no longer feels that way about you. It would seem that thinking of you and things that you might like or need is no longer a priority in her life.
10. She doesn’t get jealous
Extreme jealousy is never a healthy sign, and is usually due to a lack of confidence (you definitely don’t want to feel like it’s all consuming relationship). However, when in a relationship, we care about the attention our other half receives and can’t help but be a little aware of the actions of others towards them.
When there is a deep-rooted issue, she may start actively flirting with others while paying little attention to you, or doesn’t seem to care if you spend a lot of time with another beautiful woman. If she no longer sets any standards for your relationship, this is a big red flag that she doesn’t see herself with you.
How to fix it
It is good to remember that the key signs can vary from one couple to another, so make sure to pay close attention to what your partner does — or doesn’t do — before deciding whether or not he/she wants to continue dating you.
If you happen to notice any red flags, talk about how you want to proceed before anything happens. No one likes having difficult conversations, but you’ll never know where this relationship is going until you speak up! It is also important to that you check your own behavior and ensure that you are showing your appreciation in the ways that matter to her.
You should also try to avoid getting into heated arguments because this can lead to further issues between two people. Having a calm conversation and working to understand what is going on with her and whether there are any external factors that may be affecting
The bottom line? If you want to keep your love alive, make sure you’re doing everything possible to show him/her how much he/she means to you. For the best chance at a successful relationship, work on creating an action plan together. Determine what is important to you as individuals, as well as your needs and wants as couple, and continue to openly communicate.
Pay Attention To The List Of Signs
At times it may be very difficult to understand what’s going through a girl’s mind, so it’s important to pay attention to the signs that she giving. If you decide she’s worth fighting for, talk to her and let her express any concerns she has in the relationship so you two can work on them and get over it.
When starting a new relationship, don’t let yourself get too emotionally invested in someone who isn’t showing much interest in you. If they start displaying a lack of interest, it is best to have a frank conversation straight up and decide whether you want to continue.
In some circumstances, your girlfriend may decide to end things by dropping out of your life entirely with no explanation (ghosting). Just remember, that although it absolutely feels horrible, realize that that person may be doing what’s best for them. Rejection isn’t necessarily saying that you’re not good enough; it’s usually a person trying to take care of themselves, in whatever way, shape and form that they need.
For those who are already in a serious relationship and have concerns that your girlfriend is no long interested in being together, it may be time to take a long hard look. In my opinion, it’s better to end a relationship than stay together under false pretenses.
If the relationship is too far gone and she really is over you, it may be best to just move on. It will be hard, but you deserve a long-term relationship with someone who feels the same way about you.
