This is not the relationship you planned on!
Is your vision of your date really clear? You have it all planned and know exactly how you want it all to happen, all according to your plans. Don’t forget there is someone else involved here and they come with different ideals, values and a different approach to life.
The whole dating process is a time of meeting and getting to know each other. Moving from one date to the next you decide whether you want to spend more time with this person. Maybe you have this perfect ideal of your perfect partner and until you find “the one” you won’t consider dating anyone else. This is a really limiting approach because sometimes you just need to go on the date to spend time with someone. Other times you might go on the date but feel really irritated or challenged by the other person. It is helpful to ask yourself, what am I feeling all uncomfortable about? Sure it may be that this person are just not the one for you, but maybe too it would be great explore things further.
The Ideal Relationship
The ideal relationship doesn’t have to be where you agree on everything, have the same views, and do all the same things.
We all know those stories or have a good friend who says they really despise being around certain someone and that they would never go out with them. But so often when they take a leap and go on the date the relationship flourishes because they have taken steps to get to know the other person in a new way.
So maybe the relationship has swept you off your feet because it is new and different to anything you have experienced before. As much as you are enjoying it, it challenges every view you have ever had because this person you now have feelings for is new and different.
What do you do when you are in love but feel challenged?
- Allow yourself to move beyond your comfort zone.
- Appreciate the differences in your personalities, views, habits!
- Practice falling in love every day!
- Keep your values and be open in communication!
- Learn to move through obstacles together and let your relationship grow stronger
- Do things together that light you up and help you experience joy.
- Remember how you really feel about this person that made your relationship grow deeper!
If you didn’t feel challenged in the beginning and continue dating you wouldn’t have had the opportunity to be swept off your feet. Maybe the greatest relationships are not all truly romantic. Maybe they are the ones that move you beyond your comfort zone and allow you to explore the new possibilities for a healthy relationship.